Stick With It

Stick With It

Building a Beautiful Family

May 10th, 2026

Scriptures: 

1 Cor 7:1-11;32-39, Matt 7:1-5, 1 Cor 13:4-7

Message (Big idea):

Marriage is worth the work

Meditation (Think about it):

Give your marriage time and attention

Work on yourself to make your marriage better

Motivation (What can I do):

Write down one change you can make for peace in your marriage

Write down one thing you can do for your spouse

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Communication Beatitudes:

-Blessed are you when your willing to listen

-Blessed are you when you feel remorse about your actions

-Blessed are you when your calm and gentle

-Blessed are you when you want to change

-Blessed are you when you let it go

-Blessed are you when your honest about yourself for the sake of personal change

-Blessed are you when you can control your reactions

My spouse won't come to church - Pray first then begin to create relationships with people in church before they come. Be committed first yourself to both your spouse and to the Lord. Church is how we grow in our relationship with God. Communication and personal growth/change is how your grow in your relationship with your spouse. Your relationship with God should help you to change to a Christlike individual that brings health to the marriage.

My spouse seems so distant - Talk. Spend time together and begin to spend personal & intimate time in small steps with each other. First do something they like, sacrifice is key to getting back on track.

We can't talk without arguing - Allow your self to cool down and don't force your spouse into "discussion". Then, only talk on easy things. Go see a movie and let the other one pick which one. Then talk about the movie. Begin to have conversations around unimportant details. Always remember to disarm, ie. don't place blame or be accusatory. 

My spouse isn't the same person I married - You might have been the one who changed. You might have both changed in opposite directions. You need to take this as an opportunity to get to know them again. You might just fall in love all over again..

"When one spouse stops trying to change his or her partner and stops pointing fingers, making accusations, and withholding affection and attention, the energy often shifts to self-improvement. When you make positive changes, it allows positive changes to occur in your spouse." -Mitch Temple, Marriage Program Director of Focus on the Family